Believe

You are the source

Have you ever had a moment or a situation when you told yourself “I knew this was going to happen, I felt it in my bones?” This is because whenever you’re truly convinced of something, it tends to become true, much like a pattern. So how does your subconscious mind turn thoughts to events?

Imagine that when we come into this world, our subconscious mind has little to no programs “installed” – breathing, digestion, blood circulation, and other processes related to survival. For the first 10 years of our life, we hear suggestions, comments and opinions and we absorb them instantly. While we are aware of some of them, some are perceived on a more subtle level and simply registered within our subconscious mind, without passing through the conscious filter first.

As children and teenagers, we are not able to discern properly what is serving us and what is not. This is when we start developing our critical thinking abilities. But by the time we start doing it, we have already amassed an abundance of both constructive and destructive beliefs. This is when inner work makes a difference. Because a mind that says “nobody loves me, I’m not attractive enough” can be rewired to say – and truly believe –“I am beautiful and there are so many people around me who love me”.

The subconscious mind plays a huge role in the process of self-confidence and finding inner strength. Often, when we start an activity that is new and unknown, we seek reassurance that our decision is good. If our relationship with our subconscious mind is not developed, we’ll tend to look for reassurance in others instead of listening to our inner voice. And more often then not, they will either not agree with us, or give us more advice than needed.

The process of changing your beliefs may look different for each of us. Depending on what learning method you are most responsive to, we can use visualization, reading, writing and listening techniques to help you get there from here. As with every process, you’ll explore new feelings, moods or situations that might feel overwhelming at times. Have faith that they’re just a sign that you’re on the right path, reaching places you’ve never been before.

We often fall into the trap of thinking that our self confidence comes from achieving great things that no one else has done before. But the truth is that it’s the other way around. We will only get to achieve great things for ourselves if we have the courage and faith that we will achieve it.

If you’re thinking you’re lacking courage or faith do not worry too much about it. Both of them can be cultivated, much like a seed. You just need to allow your heart to speak more than you allow it right now, and question the negative self-talk you give yourself. By taking the time to appreciate yourself and the things you like about yourself, you’ll start reshaping your perspective, your inner dialogue, and your courage and faith will improve, as well.

Many times I have fallen into the trap of saying “I’m so lucky I succeeded” or praising my team, without seeing my own contribution to the success. It took years to finally understand that it’s not about luck, but it’s about work. That I, and all of us, earn what we get and get what we earned. If you did nothing to lose weight, then you’re not getting the results. If you finished a marathon, it’s not because you were lucky, but because you worked on it. That doesn’t mean I still don’t consider myself lucky from time to time, but I’m more aware of my own contribution to what life has brought me, good or bad.

Nothing is accidental, but rather a reflection of our inner thoughts, perceptions, and actions. Even winning the lottery, which seems the luckiest thing in the world, requires some work – you have to buy the ticket, check the results and redeem your prize.

Luckily, there is no other person in this world like you. It sounds like a cliché but it’s much more than that. Each of us had experienced life differently. We all have our unique memories, good or bad, our own decisions that had lead us to where we are now, and our experiences and beliefs. But we also have our own first-aid kit, within ourselves.

We often hear from mentors and gurus that they love themselves and their lives. And it almost sounds too good to be true, as if it were a scam. But the truth is that they didn’t achieve anything special that made them fall in love with their lives, rather they stopped tying their self-worth to their results and achievements. And I know that because I’m on the same path.

The more you trust yourself, the more you appreciate and love yourself, the greater the things you will get to accomplish. Don’t wait until you finish your To Do list to take some time off for yourself, because that will rarely happen. Prioritise your relationship with yourself, and you’ll be amazed at what kind of difference it can make in your life. If you can believe in others, you can believe in yourself, too.